To feel light on a daily basis and in order to feel free then you have to be able to let go, trying to control things all the time puts you in a state of stress and toxicity, there are two kinds of people in the world, the ones that try and fit into the box of this world and those who try and make everyone fit into there box of the world, neither one works but I can guarantee you that the ones that try and get people to fit into their box’s are the ones that are going to be more challenged in having to let go in order to save their own life, trying to control everything all the time puts your body in a state of fight and flight all the time which has been proven to be unhealthy, these people usually suffer from high blood pressure, muscle and back pain, headaches, stomach problems and the list goes on and on, it ultimately leads to a poor metabolism which the body needs in order to help fight any foreign substances the body may come in contact with, so letting go could be a matter of life or death. Letting go is a mindset, if you are not use to letting go then you could have picked it up from someone like your parents, it could be a learned behavior, so you will have to re-train your brain, you may not be able to change others but you can change yourself and the way you think, so start by analyzing your own dialogue in your head on and in every situation, allow yourself to be comfortable with jealousy, fear, anger and human emotions, start loving yourself more because sometimes we get out of hand just because we are love starved and desperate for love, find out ways that you are dishonoring yourself and not loving yourself, also accept your circumstances because chances are that they are not going to be there forever and then surrender to the outcome, also ask yourself what you can do differently and not what others can do differently, give yourself more power knowing that you have the power to change any situation just by being you, ask yourself if you had 1 minute to live then what would you choose and the chances are is that you would find surrender, let go and love at the top of the list, trust what God has for you and trust the god in you, that part that God said “it is good!”, everything is good…even what you think was meant for bad is meant for good, and it is not there to harm you but to help you grow, so trust that and your higher self 
The Charged Life, the truly lived life, is not a routine existence in some quaint, picturesque village of safety and certainty. No, the life worth living is out there, in the wooded wilds of the unknown, on the craggy battlefields that test our wits and wills in the daily fights with our own demons. It is found during the long onward slog through the storms and strife, when we hear only the whispers and taunts of foes and opponents stronger than we, on the ground where we are knocked sprawling and forced to face our own weaknesses, and on the mountaintops that we reach only because we pitted our every ounce of virtue, strength, character, and courage to keep climbing no matter the slings and arrows flung at our backs or the barriers thrown up before us. It is out there that we come face-to-face with the best in ourselves and with our destiny. It is out there, in a new world of uncertainty and adventure, that we push ourselves, better ourselves, realize ourselves. It is only in the herculean quest for something more that life fills us with wisdom and meaning, but only after we have paid with our sweat and, at times, our tears. It is in the marching on when we are tired and weak and fearful, and in the camaraderie of those fellow warriors we have striven with–our brothers and sisters and family and friends who cheered us on and toiled with us despite the messiness and apparent madness of it all. It is out there on the path less traveled, an uncharted path chosen by each of us alone, an often meandering, overgrown path that leads only to another unpaved road or open field of opportunity, where we must strike out once more with the same hope for victory and transcendence. It is out there when we have the guts to stand naked before the world as who we truly are, when we peer into the souls of those around us and finally see in them the image of the divine, that we plunge ourselves bravely and unconditionally into love that has no bottom or boundary. It is out there, outside the confines of our comforts and the pleasures of our accumulations, beyond our architecture of the routine, that we slip the bonds of our limiting beliefs, soar magnificently above our own shortcomings, and express our highest selves. It is out there, in a world rich with choice and challenge and fear and freedom, that your greatest gifts and adventures await you. Listen. It is out there that destiny calls. Be bold and ready yourself. It is time to charge once again.
~Brendon Burchard~
People say that beauty is only skin deep, but have you ever thought deep about what that means?, people talk about inner beauty and outer beauty, but have you ever done inner thinking on what makes you judge beauty the way that you do?. In Africa people are taught to think of heavier people as being more beautiful, as to here people are taught to think of beauty as someone stick thin according to our models, although the Kardashians are thought of to be beautiful according to there curves…regardless you have all kinds of people that think of beauty differently, some like big noses some like short, some like long hair some like short, some think of feet as being sexy and some as them being disgusting. If you take off all our hair, make-up, injections, boob jobs, and if we all wore the same clothes and did not workout then what would be left?, we would then maybe be forced to look deeper if we all looked close to being the same way, but then again knowing us we would come up with some kind of thing that would be called more beautiful, it’s almost like our nature to do so. The thing I like about pageants is that they determine the winner based on more than just outer looks, but still we are concerned more on what we see with our eyes. Dating is a good example on how much emphasis is put on looks, and a lot of times it can make people single for years and make them miss out on an opportunity to finding a soul mate due to being too judgmental, you don’t marry a persons looks. Going on a date with a guy that is very good looking just after a few dates or getting to know him more can make him become not as handsome and the same goes for a woman, you can also date a woman not that good looking but find that she looks more beautiful as you get to know her more and the same goes for a man, basically people will start looking better as you get to know more about what goes deeper than the skin, and this is the person that you will marry and that will determine how long you stay married, so swim deeper and stay out of the shallow end, as you think it is safer it will actually keep you stuck never seeing what is actually out there waiting to be discovered, and could potentially be more dangerous.
I was watching this 4 year old girl walk out of a store the other day with a stuffed dog in her hand, the dog looked like the dog from lady and the tramp, and as she was squeezing this dog she was kissing it’s lips, with every kiss the smile on her face got bigger and bigger, then her dad grabbed her hand and she smiled as they walked away, I could not help but notice how giving that stuffed animal love gave her so much joy!, think back when you were a kid or think of your own kids and how much love is important to us and our growth, and how much love we get determines on how we love ourselves and others, but actually love comes very easy to us when we are kids, it is not until we get older that our love tends to fade away, and either that love turns to hate or we just have a hard time loving at all because the pain is just too great. When we were kids we loved so deeply, we loved our friends, our animals, our parents…then somewhere that all changed, our first nature though was love and later on we find ourselves trying to go back to that place because it is more in line with our natural self, we were made out of love for love and to love, and because it feels so good we are drawn back to it like a magnet. It is no surprise that we have animals and are so animal obsessed because in a world of forgotten love at least our animals are there to show us that unconditional love that we so crave, even our parents loved us more unconditionally when we were younger, then somewhere along the line we were made to feel that love was more conditionally when we got older and things were expected of us, so now we are much needier of that love…but who is going to show us that love other than our animals?, but love is our first nature, it is actually easier to love, love is even proven to help us live longer and healthier lives, so lets all go back to our first love which is love itself xoxo.
I think there is something that needs to be talked about…and that is about men and their emotions. Men are human and to think that they do not have feelings and emotions is absurd, when I was dating I found something to be interesting and that was that men were actually more sensitive than women, when a woman gets hurt by a man they can get back up and love again due to them wearing there feelings on there sleeves sort of speak, but I found that when a man got hurt by a woman they seemed to not recover quite as gracefully, as to where women could keep getting hurt over and over again but still had hope in love. When men get hurt they shut down as if killing there emotions get rid of the hurt and pain, but I believe this only makes it worse because they never really deal with it. Actually I think gay guys have it good because at least they are more in touch with their feelings and emotions, sometimes I wonder if they always felt different than other men because they allowed themselves just to be human with feelings and emotions. Crying is so therapeutic, I cannot even imagine men not being able to have this outlet, sometimes when my emotions are trapped inside of me…just having a good cry releases that energy from my body and I feel better, like a weight has been lifted from off of my body and all I needed was a good cry, I believe God gave us tears for a reason, we have all been gifted with tears and we should all use them, no wonder guys are so easy to anger and not to sadness because they have been taught to hold back the tears, but that anger is putting too much stress on the heart and you see a lot of guys having heart attacks at early ages compared to women, the heart needs to be free to express itself, let the heart out of jail…let the heart be open, it is crying for freedom. Just like women have to control their emotions so do men, like if you are in a work environment or around a group of people maybe you have an image to uphold or have to act in a responsible manner and that is ok for the moment but to keep it in and not dealt with is what I am more concerned with on the health of any individual weather they are male or female, a guy usually will think they come across as a wussy or weak but actually this world craves passion and passion too is stemmed from emotion and that is sexy, that’s why women love musicians because they express themselves through there emotions in there music, people want to feel and if they do not feel you then they cannot relate to you, I believe this stereo type of not being human and able to express themselves has to die down because it is killing us.
There is a technique that I use which has helped me tremendously in helping me change the way I think in order to grow as a person. The brain is so smart yet so dumb at the same time, that’s why we can be brain washed or hypnotized, so this is a form of hypnotizing myself that I use to help me change the way I had been conditioned from either childhood or other circumstances, I got this from Asara Lovejoy and the technique is called The One Command. What I do every morning and every night before I go to bed and before I rise for the day or even think about anything for the day, is I lay in bed and start to visualize my life as I want it, how I would be ending my day and starting my day if I was living the life that I wanted, then what I do is roll my eyes up into my head, I do this closing my eyes but you can do it either way what ever is comfortable for you, I feel closing my eyes is more powerful though, then I wait and think nothing keeping my eyes closed and rolled in the back of my head, this puts your brain into your subconscious so that you can hypnotize yourself, then after doing this for about a minute maybe two, you speak the words “I don’t know HOW…all I know is ______(then speak whatever you want in your life)”, the reason why you speak I don’t know how is because the brain tries to figure out things so by doing this you bypass the brain trying to figure out how, and by speaking what you want while in the subconscious mind creates an energy, with every thought there is an energy reaction, that’s why people can make themselves sick just with there thoughts alone. So like if you want more money, friends, better relationships or more success then you would speak “I don’t know how I have lots of money…all I know is that lots of money keeps coming my way effortlessly”, or “I don’t know how I attract so many friends…all I know is that people are just drawn to me and I attract good people in my life all the time”, or “I don’t know how me and my parents get along so well…all I know is that me and my parents have the best relationship”, or “I don’t know how I am so successful…all I know is that success is so easy for me and everything I touch I am a success at”. Now you can say this however you want, these are just a few examples but you can do this with virtually anything like weight loss or phobias, I hope you like this tid bit of info, try it and tell me how it has helped you
To feel light on a daily basis and in order to feel free then you have to be able to let go, trying to control things all the time puts you in a state of stress and toxicity, there are two kinds of people in the world, the ones that try and fit into the box of this world and those who try and make everyone fit into there box of the world, neither one works but I can guarantee you that the ones that try and get people to fit into their box’s are the ones that are going to be more challenged in having to let go in order to save their own life, trying to control everything all the time puts your body in a state of fight and flight all the time which has been proven to be unhealthy, these people usually suffer from high blood pressure, muscle and back pain, headaches, stomach problems and the list goes on and on, it ultimately leads to a poor metabolism which the body needs in order to help fight any foreign substances the body may come in contact with, so letting go could be a matter of life or death. Letting go is a mindset, if you are not use to letting go then you could have picked it up from someone like your parents, it could be a learned behavior, so you will have to re-train your brain, you may not be able to change others but you can change yourself and the way you think, so start by analyzing your own dialogue in your head on and in every situation, allow yourself to be comfortable with jealousy, fear, anger and human emotions, start loving yourself more because sometimes we get out of hand just because we are love starved and desperate for love, find out ways that you are dishonoring yourself and not loving yourself, also accept your circumstances because chances are that they are not going to be there forever and then surrender to the outcome, also ask yourself what you can do differently and not what others can do differently, give yourself more power knowing that you have the power to change any situation just by being you, ask yourself if you had 1 minute to live then what would you choose and the chances are is that you would find surrender, let go and love at the top of the list, trust what God has for you and trust the god in you, that part that God said “it is good!”, everything is good…even what you think was meant for bad is meant for good, and it is not there to harm you but to help you grow, so trust that and your higher self 
