I wanted to write about why I think online dating can be a good idea and how meeting someone before you see them face to face can be good, depending upon the motivation and desires of an individual who is seeking to find someone online then it can turn out quite well, if men or women are looking to just have sex or get money and a good meal etc. then this is not for you, but if you truly are looking to find your soul mate, partner and be in a good serious long lasting relationship then this is for you.
This was about 5 years ago when I met my husband on Myspace when Myspace was the older version and at the beginning of the Facebook craze, now I consider Facebook like Myspace and that it too can be a great way to meet people and really get to know them, what I liked about Myspace was that on a persons main page about themselves that you could give a description about yourself and what your all about, so that you got a good idea about them similar to dating sites, also similar to dating sites you would be able to look up people in your area unlike Facebook, what I like about Facebook is that you can get to know them by what they post on their timeline and that they still have an about me section. So when I was looking to add friends to Myspace I came across my husbands about me section and what drew me to him was how different and interesting he made himself sound, he had very interesting likes and dreams that I was very interested in, which made me be interested in sending him a letter to let him know how interesting and different he sounded and that I would like to be friends, so from there we wrote back and forth a few times then exchanged e-mails and started writing back and forth for about a month before exchanging phone numbers, now during the time of writing back and forth I asked a lot of questions about him and him about me as well, so before even talking on the phone we got to know each other really well, we ended up talking on the phone for about 3 months until we finally met face to face, during us talking on the phone it really opened us up to each others personality and we got to know each other a lot better in a way that you cannot get to know each other just through e-mail alone, during that time on the phone we still asked lots of questions, needless to say we got married about 6 months after first meeting on Myspace, now if you know me I do not get married right away to anyone, in fact I have been known to be with a guy for 8 years and never marring, one guy I was with for 2 and one guy I was with for 6 years and never got married, two of the men wanted to marry me so lets just say that I do not just jump into marriage right away, the reason why I was able to marry him so fast was because we got to know each other so well and know each others core values so well that it made me feel comfortable to marry him, I even will say that he is my soul mate because I did not think that I would find someone so compatible with me.
So the point here is to ask lots of questions and to ask the right questions at that, I like to ask a guy what they are looking for in a woman and if a guy says personality and someone to have fun with then not always but most of the time it could mean that they are not ready to settle down and may never settle down so I proceed with caution on that one, but I ask lots of questions like what there hobbies and interests are for a base in order to find things that we have in common, then I ask if they have brothers and sisters and if they are close to them in order to talk about deeper things like how well they deal with them which can give you a good idea on how they handle not so well situations, because you will be running into that eventually so I like to be prepared, because I believe you have to treat everyone differently depending upon their personality and how they process things, in some cases that alone might be a reason why or why not you guys are compatible, I like to take day by day and not judge right away just to see what goes on on the ins and outs of their daily lives and for me I was looking for someone that was open which is what my husband was and that really sold me on him, we would talk about people he encountered during some days, we talked about things he learned maybe that day, and that really gave me a good idea about what life on a daily basis would be like with him, still to this day we talk about everything from tv shows to all sorts of his interests, even if I am not interested in something he is talking about I try to listen just in case I might learn something from it, and that’s what makes relationships so great if you can help each other grow and learn or be inspiring for them in some way. Anyway there is lots to tell about this subject but I will make it short, and that is to keep your eyes open to meeting people in ways that you never thought that you could, or that go against what other people say as not being a good idea, there was a time when we were even embarrassed of how we met because peoples image was that of this not being a serious relationship that will not last, but I could not be so happy and I still think I am the happiest girl alive to have met him, so keep your head up, heart open and follow it, go after what you want.
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