Being Invested In The Outcome

A lot of times we think about the investments were making like with money or maybe even investments into relationships, and we tend to feel very betrayed if someone we love betrays us after all of our investment into them, only trying to protect our investments next time, in order to not get hurt again, or if we lose money then we tend to hold on tighter to what we earned and worked so hard for. Unconsciously we are doing the same thing to everything we do in life, we invest our time in a company just to find they found someone better or for lower pay and that they no longer needed you anymore, we set ourselves up because we have expectations on how we see the end result to be, so normally what happens when things don’t turn out the way we expect them to go then we get let down, and instead of looking at the bright side all we see is how much of a failure we are because we let ourselves down on our expectations, sometimes we don’t look at that door closing as to learn from it so that way something better can come along, how many times have you been upset about something just to find out later on that the same thing you were upset about you ended up being grateful and happy about?, at least once in your lifetime i’m sure  , we can avoid a lot of pain in life and create more open doors and possibilities just by not being invested in the outcome. Now I am not saying not to have goals, dreams and hopes, but just keep in mind that it can or cannot go the way that you expect or want, and that you can be open to other possibilities, because if you are not open then you can sabotage your success, it can cause you to not push through if you are invested in the outcome, you might even see that what you thought was there to kill you that in the end was the very thing that made you stronger resulting in success. Also when you are invested in the outcome then you are not fully present or invested in the present moment, it also can be an energy drainer when your focus is on an outcome, I say that investing in yourself gives you more energy instead of robbing you of your energy, because in the back of your mind you will always be thinking even if on a subconscious level that “what if this does not go the way that I want it to go?”, but if you invest in yourself and doing your best knowing that it is all for your higher good regardless of the outcome gives you more energy to play with, you will always be disappointed in yourself if you are always invested in outcomes which in turn is an energy drainer, because no one wants to go around feeling like a failure all the time, it just is a bad feeling and can freeze a person from moving forward. So ask yourself…am I loving my husband for something in return?, am I doing something for my friends so that way when I need there help that they will be there for me?, am I being nice to my boss so that they will give me that raise? etc., you get the picture…just be aware is all, because maybe in loving my husband I got something that I did not expect, or in doing something for my friend I met someone that changed my life forever, and maybe in being nice to my boss that my boss opened up to me and gave me such good advice that it made me the strong person that I am today, just don’t miss out on the blessings trying to get the prize  .