LOVE + ADMIRATION = DEEPER LOVE

I use to wonder why I felt like I loved someone more than another, first I thought someone was my soul mate but when I discovered that I could love someone else with just as much intensity or more, then I realized after doing a lot of inner self discovery that what I was feeling was levels of admiration, I also did a discovery on love itself that had me baffled for a long time, I wondered how people could fall out of love and I had to ask myself…did they ever love that person at all?, on my own discover and journey on the situation…I thought it was time to share what I had learned. Love is not something that is measured it just is, we were made from love, for love, to love, love is what we are so it is very natural for us to love, hate is taught but that’s another subject, anyway back to the subject of love. People were made to connect to each other, that is how were hard wired, so if you feel love at first sight then other than spiritual reasons it could mean that you are connecting to that persons true self or their energy that they are putting off, maybe it is there confidence, sweetness, power or personality etc., something that you are connecting to that you could be admiring. Sometimes we love someone because they have something that we want as far as personality trait, something that we admire in them that if we were to get closer to them then we would think that we could acquire that trait, or if we don’t have it then maybe them is the missing ingredient in our lives that will complete us, we all want to be whole and most of us don’t think that we can be whole on our own, so we need something or someone else, that’s why a relationship where two people have what the other is lacking makes for a good partnership, because the two admire each other they tend to not only stay together longer but get along a lot better and tend to be happier in the process long term, but if one stops admiring the other person then that could be a dangerous ingredient in the mix, and doesn’t taste very good. So the next time you love someone so deeply that your willing to die for them, you might want to ask yourself “what is it that I need from them?” that I cannot give myself, and that is why after a break up we can tend to grow from it, because it brings us deeper into ourselves, love is a powerful thing but love with admiration is even more powerful.

Be The Lion

I want to share a vision that I have pertaining to lion’s and how I feel we as humans should be if we want to survive in this Human Kingdom. If you ever watched a lion strut his stuff, or even if you watched your house cat walk around, you know that they have a presence to the way that they walk, a confidence and a look in their eye that says “I am the lion king”, in my vision I believe we all have that walk, just in some it is hidden or they forgot their strut walk, I encourage you to let your outer strut walk loose…and think Lion the next time you are walking around, even if people are not watching you…never let go of your strut. In my vision I see a lion at the top of a hill or mountain, the other animals are walking by…some lion’s some not, and some want to test the lion, they feel his presence and confidence and most walk on by based on that, but for the some that want to test if they have what it takes to go up against the lion they do so, but the lion always wins. Think of yourself on the top of that hill or mountain, the other people being the other animals and lions, but when you look at them make sure you look at them knowing that you always win, most won’t even go up against you, but for the few that do it will make you stronger and it is your opportunity to shine and to build your confidence even more, for when you are the weak lion or playing victim then others will know that if they pounce on you that they will eat you alive, but at least if you have your strut and your confidence it will lessen the numbers, instead of making others stronger, make yourself stronger, practice your walk, practice your mind set, the only victim is in your mind, but you have a heart of a lion, so I encourage you to use it.

Being Invested In The Outcome

A lot of times we think about the investments were making like with money or maybe even investments into relationships, and we tend to feel very betrayed if someone we love betrays us after all of our investment into them, only trying to protect our investments next time, in order to not get hurt again, or if we lose money then we tend to hold on tighter to what we earned and worked so hard for. Unconsciously we are doing the same thing to everything we do in life, we invest our time in a company just to find they found someone better or for lower pay and that they no longer needed you anymore, we set ourselves up because we have expectations on how we see the end result to be, so normally what happens when things don’t turn out the way we expect them to go then we get let down, and instead of looking at the bright side all we see is how much of a failure we are because we let ourselves down on our expectations, sometimes we don’t look at that door closing as to learn from it so that way something better can come along, how many times have you been upset about something just to find out later on that the same thing you were upset about you ended up being grateful and happy about?, at least once in your lifetime i’m sure  , we can avoid a lot of pain in life and create more open doors and possibilities just by not being invested in the outcome. Now I am not saying not to have goals, dreams and hopes, but just keep in mind that it can or cannot go the way that you expect or want, and that you can be open to other possibilities, because if you are not open then you can sabotage your success, it can cause you to not push through if you are invested in the outcome, you might even see that what you thought was there to kill you that in the end was the very thing that made you stronger resulting in success. Also when you are invested in the outcome then you are not fully present or invested in the present moment, it also can be an energy drainer when your focus is on an outcome, I say that investing in yourself gives you more energy instead of robbing you of your energy, because in the back of your mind you will always be thinking even if on a subconscious level that “what if this does not go the way that I want it to go?”, but if you invest in yourself and doing your best knowing that it is all for your higher good regardless of the outcome gives you more energy to play with, you will always be disappointed in yourself if you are always invested in outcomes which in turn is an energy drainer, because no one wants to go around feeling like a failure all the time, it just is a bad feeling and can freeze a person from moving forward. So ask yourself…am I loving my husband for something in return?, am I doing something for my friends so that way when I need there help that they will be there for me?, am I being nice to my boss so that they will give me that raise? etc., you get the picture…just be aware is all, because maybe in loving my husband I got something that I did not expect, or in doing something for my friend I met someone that changed my life forever, and maybe in being nice to my boss that my boss opened up to me and gave me such good advice that it made me the strong person that I am today, just don’t miss out on the blessings trying to get the prize  .